Once you take a look at why you are not having sex (fear, self-disgust, anticipation of what your partner might feel), you ask yourself: If you bring your underlying emotions to the surface, you become more "present," he says.
"Everyone wants a date or bedmate who is present and engaged." Here are some other ideas for getting past the negative feelings that can inhibit romance: If you still can't get past what you see in the mirror, Valan-Hudson reminds us is that vision is just one of the five senses.
"Leave something to be discovered." What you might (re)discover is how much fun sex is.
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Dwoskin also recommends not concentrating on your partner so much, but taking pleasure in your own sensations.
Of course, Hollywood and Madison Avenue don't help, with all the Size 0s running around.
Someone I know of examined a photo closely and was sure he could see the staple puncture holes where it had been cut out of a glossy magazine.
"Come with me," sneered the acting coach I had been so excited to take a class with.
Have you put your sex life on hold while you wait for those last 10 (or even 100) pounds to disappear?
While losing weight and getting healthier can definitely get those urges going again, depriving yourself of romance in the meantime is not a good idea.