“Anytime there’s a divergence—whether it’s money or sex or weight—there are potential problems.Plus, weight influences how you feel about your body, health, and attractiveness.” Recent research echoes Dr. A new study by researchers from the University of Puget Sound and the University of Arizona found that mixed-weight couples had the potential for higher conflict in their relationship.I am fairly tall and have an hourglass shape so I carry it pretty well.My problem is that ever since I gained this weight, my dating life has gone totally downhill.And it’s also likely to lead to greater conflict and relationship problems, making it an unwise course of action if your partner is overweight and you’re trying to make them change their lifestyle or eating habits.
Well, wonder no more — a recent study conducted by scientists at the University of Puget Sound, University of Arizona, and Hanover College investigated this issue.
Not much is off-limits for Melanie and Bill Draper* (*not their real names)—except for Bill’s weight.
“What he eats is fairly healthy,” says Melanie, 57, who lives in northern New Jersey.
The study, published in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, assessed 43 couples and found that couples where the woman was overweight and the man was normal weight argued more than other couples. If you’re the one who’s overweight, tell your partner exactly what you need, suggests psychologist Harriet Lerner, Ph. It could be anything from “Push me to get outside and walk with you every day” to “Stop trying to be helpful.
(In the study, couples where the man was overweight and the woman was normal weight had no greater conflict than those where both parties fell into the same weight class.) The study also found that there was less relationship conflict when one partner supported the other’s effort to diet and exercise. By being in your spouse’s corner—not on her back, says Dr. I need to struggle with this by myself.” Be a good listener.