Question after question, I was hearing from women with similar concerns.
Questions like: The easy answer to the above questions would be to write more and more articles to these types of men telling them to give more, to ask more, to get healthier, to become stronger, to be godlier … And there may be some truth in those sort of answers.
But the fact of the matter is that if you can’t get married within the next year-and-a-half, you are in a precarious position: either your relationship grows and you both find yourselves without an appropriate outlet for your maturing affections, or your relationship sputters and stalls because there is no immediate hope for marriage.
The primary question here is whether you are presently caught in the habit of viewing pornography.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man to take some initiative in a relationship, but women also need to take responsibility for their relationships.Men: Initiate the Relationship and Keep on Initiating The idea that God has designed and called men to bear a unique responsibility to lead in their relationships to women has been challenged ever since the fall (Gen ).In our contemporary context, however, there seems to be a particularly acute and nuanced resistance to this notion, and areas of male leadership that were once assumed are now questioned as outmoded at best, patriarchal and misogynistic at worst.Adding difficulty to an already difficult situation is the reality that men, also since the fall, have an inward propensity toward passivity: that a man should initiate a romantic relationship and continue to initiate that relationship is a principle that either sits uneasily upon the conscience or is simply disregarded as unimportant.But the relational structures that God has put in place will inevitably rise to the surface of our experience, and men and women will often find they are most satisfied when the man takes the helm of leadership in the area of romance.